Do you know many of the reasons we’re drawn to people, why we want to be in a relationship with them and think it would be great, have got nothing to do with…

1) compatibility and 2) whether our emotional needs can be met?

And here’s the deal: No matter how great the sex is, no matter how good they look, no matter how much we think we have in common with them, if we’re incompatible and have unmet needs, we’re unfulfilled. The relationship won’t work.

It doesn’t have to be this way. Imagine if you could take those past experiences and use them as intel to 1) move you towards a more mutually fulfilling relationship and, 2) move you towards becoming more of who you really are.

I invite you to join me on Break The Cycle, which has a wealth of insight, tools, processes and practices to help you break free of relationship patterns that aren’t serving you.

Because the truth is, this whole trying to figure out dating and relationships alone through trial and error, listening to or mimicking loved ones who might be leading you down a dead end, trying to come up with schemes to catch ‘em and keep ‘em, or people pleasing in the hopes of being ‘chosen’, is tough.

When we turn 18, no one hands us a manual explaining how to navigate life, so after one too many painful dating and relationship experiences, we mistakenly blame it on us not being “good enough” and fear that there’s no decent folk left to date.

Adulthood is about unlearning all of the unproductive and downright harmful lessons and misunderstandings we’ve picked up from childhood so that we can become more of who we really are.

Unfortunately, many of us don’t realise this, and it can be tempting to give up or to stay stuck subsisting on crumbs (don’t). That’s why I’ve created Break The Cycle and am giving you the classes and support to help you get to the bottom of your relationship pattern and on the way to healing it, in as little as a month.

And do you know what? This is absolutely the time to dig into what’s been going on. Returning to what you know isn’t working, and being less than who you are doesn’t have to be your future reality.

Become ready for the relationship and life you need, desire and deserve.

If being in a serious relationship and being done with Mr/Miss Unavailables is your top priority over the coming months, I would absolutely love to work with you. I’m great craic, I seriously know my stuff and will possibly freak you out (in a good way) with how quickly I can pinpoint the personal baggage behind your pattern. I’m also compassionate and dedicated to helping as many people as possible to get out from the shadow of their pasts and into loving, awesome relationships.

If you’ve got any questions about the course, drop me an email at natalieATbaggagereclaim.co.uk (replace ‘AT’ with @), and I’ll be in touch ASAP.

Hope to see you in class.

Nat

WHAT WILL CHANGE FOR YOU

Understand where you are, how you got there, how to change your present circumstances, and how to maintain.

  • Figure out what you truly desire and need in a relationship and partner.

    You can’t move towards what you want and need if you don’t know and represent what that is.

  • Identify your pattern

    It’s tricky to change what you don’t know.

  • Discover the specific messages, guidance and healing contained in your experiences.

    Your pattern exists for a reason and contains powerful clues about how to heal, move forward and be more you.

  • Do a shedload of self-forgiveness work.

    Because you can’t move from where you are now to where you want to go if you carry the same beliefs, feelings, habits and baggage.

  • Instil self-care practices.

    Doing so will allow you to become conscious, aware and present so that the patterns can’t run you like they used to with the old triggers.

  • Become more emotionally available.

    It makes it so much easier to feel good about yourself and your relationships, choices, and life in general.

Course curriculum

    1. Welcome to Break The Cycle

    2. Prep: 7 Course Completion Secrets

    3. Prep: Self-Care Practices

    4. Prep: Journaling - Tips To Get You Started

    5. Feelings Diary Guide

    6. Support requests

    7. Community guidelines for the private Facebook Group

    1. Office Hours Intro

    2. Office Hours Schedule 2022

    1. What do you want?

    2. Step One: Identify your conscious desire for a relationship

    3. Optional extra resource: Needs VS Wants

    4. Optional extra resource: Needs In Relationships

    5. Figure Out your Voids

    6. Emotional Needs quick guide

    1. What's your pattern?

    2. Step Two: Identify your net outcome

    1. Break The Cycle Week Three

    2. Step Three: What's going on?

    3. Optional extra resource: Figure out your voids

    1. What are you carrying?

    2. Step Four Explained (watch after completing the step!)

    3. Optional extra resource: Get To Grips With Anger

    4. Optional extra resource: How To Cut Back On Passive Aggression

About this course

  • $395.00
  • 36 lessons
  • 10 hours of video content

Remove the hidden relationship blocks…

…and become available for the relationship you need, desire, and deserve.

Enroll today

IS BREAK THE CYCLE RIGHT FOR YOU?

If any of the following sound familiar, Break The Cycle will make a huge difference to your well-being and experiences.

  • You lack confidence about dating or forging a relationship and so end up feeling anxious about getting things ‘wrong’ and jeopardising the relationship, or fear believing in someone and your future in case they disappoint.

  • You’re unsure of what you really need and want in a partner and can’t figure out where you’re going wrong.

  • You feel invested in relationships that don’t get off the ground or that hit obstacle after obstacle and are starting to doubt your worth and your good qualities.

  • You wake up hungry in your relationships wondering how you can be so into someone and yet you’re in pain and your needs aren’t being met.

  • You’ve been with same person, different package and wind up in variations of the same situation with similar frustrations and complaints, but you can’t quite see what the pattern is or how to move past it.

  • You want to be in a relationship and to meet ‘The One’ but are exhausted from past experiences and the dating process, or it’s feeling very do or die, ‘last chance saloon’.

  • You don’t truly feel good about or believe in yourself so you people-please, look for validation, put your romantic partners on a pedestal, and settle for far less than you deserve and you’ve forgotten how wonderful you really are.

What participants say

Everything’s shifted

by Ailish, Ireland.

Before taking Break The Cycle, I was terrified of getting hurt and settling for super-casual relationships. What I uncovered, especially about my secret anger and my fear of being trapped, blew me away. It forced me to confront the past in a really constructive and compassionate way. I met my current partner a few months later, and I know I wouldn’t have recognised and appreciated him without the work I’ve done.

Life-changing

by Celeste, USA.

I just finished taking Break The Cycle – completely amazing, life-changing course. I absolutely loved it. Thank you so much for your wisdom and insight.

FAQ

  • For how many weeks does Break The Cycle run, and what is the duration of my access?

    Break the Cycle is a 6-week course, and standard access is one year.

  • What date does the course start?

    The day you book.

  • What format is the course material?

    Video and audio (mp3) versions for classes, and PDFs for any worksheets and other resources.

  • Do I have to show up at a particular time?

    No. New course modules are released each week. The course is self-paced, so work it on your schedule. You can do it in the six weeks, or you can spread it over a longer period that fits your needs, including learning style and giving yourself time to process what you’re learning and healing in a boundaried way.

  • Is the course suitable if I’m already in a relationship?

    Regardless of whether single, dating, in a relationship or even married, start at ground zero to get a foundational sense of 1) you and 2) healthy relationships. So yes, it most definitely is suitable.

  • Is there a payment plan?

    Yes. There’s a 3-month. This is a payment agreement, not a subscription. In agreeing to the payment plan, you are agreeing to pay the full amount over three months.

  • Do you have bursary/scholarship places available?

    Yes. I appreciate that not everyone has the means to pay the full price. Please email natalie AT baggagereclaim.co.uk with your request including a very brief explanation, and I will send you a special code that will reduce the course fee to the requested amount. If bursary places are full for that month, you will be added to the bursary waitlist for the following month. If you’re unable to pay for the course, please email with scholarship in the subject line so I can arrange access for you.

  • How much access do I have to Natalie?

    I’m active in the private Facebook group where I do respond to posts and offer encouragement and support. Given that this is an online course and I, of course, only have so much bandwidth, I am not available for individualised, private support.

  • What’s the refund policy?

    Refunds are available on the online course up until day 7 of the program. If you decide to cancel the course but keep your workshop place (or another bonus), you will be refunded the course minus the price of whatever you’re keeping.

  • Can I share my access/material with others?

    No. The course and all of its materials are issued to the named student. Course materials are yours to download, but distribution/sharing is prohibited.

  • Can I gift someone with a place?

    Yes, you can. Make your purchase and notify me afterwards at shop AT baggagereclaim.co.uk.

  • Is anything in the Facebook group visible to the public?

    No. It’s a private and secret Facebook group. What you see in your feed is based on what you have access to, not what others can see. For detailed information on how groups work, please see Facebook’s guide to privacy settings for groups.

  • Do I get a discount if I’m a student/member [of your courses] already?

    Yes, book via the courses website not on here. Please note that student discount places don’t include bonuses offered (if applicable).

  • Once I sign up, how long does it take for me to enjoy a student discount?

    You won’t receive one on your Break The Cycle purchase, but you will have student discounts after the refund term has ended (you will receive info on Day 8).